My 25th birthday is only 4 days away! As an early celebration, I thought I’d shared 25 random facts about me. I hope you get to know me a bit more through this. Enjoy 🙂
- I love to laugh- at a variety of things. Don’t be offended if I laugh during a serious conversation.
- I’m the second of 4 children- 2 sisters, 1 brother.
- I try to keep my makeup simple, but I do love bold lip colors.
- I like big, curly hair.
- My style is quite simple, but classy.
- I love bread, anything made with flour, really.
- I’ve been wanting to get my noise pierced for years!
- I like to stay as healthy as possible; food and fitness wise. On the downside, I do like my sweets. Everything in moderation, right?
- My heaviest weight was 180 pounds, if not more (while in high school).
- I live with my parents.
- I live in Midwest, USA.
- I was born with 12 fingers. The extras were pull or cut off at birth, and I was left with a bump on both pinky fingers. I’m Nigerian, and the Yorubas call is Aje which means luck. I’m not really sure how the concept came about.VIEW STORY »
Finding peace in the midst of chaos can be a constant battle. If we fail to control what goes on inside, our thoughts can hold us captive. It can take us to unimaginable heights if we don’t seize and dismiss the negativity quickly.
They say an idle mind is a devil’s work shop, but a noisy mind is no different. If we constantly over-think and analyze each situation that comes my way, we can drive ourselves crazy with just the thoughts roaming about our minds. Once a thought starts, it can become difficult and often seems impossible to stop. As much as you want to just cut off those thoughts and calm you noisy mind, you may not be able to. I know it’s possible, but some of us haven’t mastered it yet.
My dreadlocks were in just one day short of a year. I didn’t style it much, other than the curls I had in often, which weakened my hair a bit (I used perm rods to curl it). Styling and maintenance became more stressful than I had anticipated. If I decide to reinstall dreadlocks in the future, here are some things I’ll keep in mind:
- Loc-to-part ratio
- I installed my locks without the help of a loctician, so the parting and size was quite off. When next I lock my hair, I’ll visit a loctician for proper installation and sizing.
- Moisture is key
- My hair lacked more moisture while in dreadlocks, than it did while in its loose state. With dreadlocks, hair is bundled up, so getting enough moisture through each strand (if possible) is essential. I sprayed my hair daily with a mix of water and oils, but that wasn’t enough for my low porosity hair. Retaining and maintaining moisture was my main issue when I had locks. Even now with my loose natural hair, I’m on the hunt for moisturizing products for my low porosity.
- Having dreadlocks does not mean no manipulation
- Waking up and having to style my hair became a hassle. I installed my locks because I wanted minimal manipulation, but got a rude awakening months into my journey. I realized I couldn’t just get up and go without styling my hair. If I did, my hair looked a hot mess, that’s why I curled it often (bad idea). Also, at the stage my hair was in, my style options were limited.
- Knowledge is key
- I’ll admit I didn’t know much about locks before installing mine. If I ever decided to go another lock journey, I’ll be sure to read as much as I can about it.
There you have it. Having dreadlocks thought me a lot. One thing I know is, the next time I decide to lock my hair, my journey will be more pleasant than the previous one.
Are you on a hair journey?
The thought of letting go of my dreadlocks started about 6 months into my journey. I’ve always loved dreadlocks on others and contemplated installing in on myself for my years. So the desire to cut it off just 6 months after installation was a bit odd. I installed my locs using the two strand twists method on the 31st of January, 2015 and cut it off the 30th of January this year. Cutting if off that day wasn’t planned.
Cutting off my locs wasn’t the first, second or third time cutting off my hair. My first big chop was in 2009 after realizing how damaging relaxer (perms) were to my hair. My hair is naturally thick and quite full, but with relaxers, it became thin. Year 2009 was the year I went natural. I cut off my hair again probably two years after my first big chop, then a few more times after that. The most recent one was about 2 months ago. I have reasons for cutting off my hair each time; similar but different reasons. But cutting off my dreadlocks was the most spontaneous one out of all the times I’ve cut my hair.
A quarter of a century; 25 is said to be a magical number.
It’s easy to become controlled by our age. For some, you might have written out some goals or dreams you wish to have accomplished by a certain age. Once you clocked that age, you begin to think time’s running out or your passion for that dream begins to wind down. Don’t let it be so, don’t let a number determine the beginning or end of your dream.
When I begin to have thoughts of my forgotten dreams, I remember that dreams have no expiration date. No matter how long it takes, I’ll achieve my dreams.
It’s a fact that Social Media is not going away any time soon. With that said, spending too much time on Social Media can over take your mind and consume your thoughts with both positive and negative.
A few weeks ago, I began feeling overwhelmed with social media and all the noise that comes with it. When I go on Instagram, I scroll through for a few seconds and exit. I do that because, I know if I stay too long on it, I’ll start to wish, want and judge myself based on what I see. Because I don’t want to compare my life to the next girl or family, I limit my time on social media.
I’ve gone as far as uninstalling some apps like Twitter and Snapchat because I need a break. A break from the unnecessary noise that comes with social media. A break from the picture perfect life of those I follow. A break from those I admire. A break from the social media noise. I just needed a break from all the junk. Ha! Yes, junk.